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 The New Testament and Divorce: A Closer Look at Law, Sin, and the Gospel

Divorce is never a light topic, especially when viewed through the lens of Scripture. Let me begin by clarifying my position: I am not here to justify divorce or argue that Scripture condones it. Rather, I aim to highlight an often-overlooked perspective in the New Testament that uses the Old Testament law of divorce to point to something much deeper: the Gospel itself.

My stance is simple—divorce, like any sin, brings harm to others and ourselves. However, I also believe that, under the Law of Moses, strict adherence in certain situations—like cases involving abuse or danger—could bring more harm than good. The Law of Christ, which centers on love and grace, protects human life and dignity. No one should suffer physical or emotional torment in the name of religious law. We are not bound to the Law of Moses in that way.

With that foundation laid, let us turn our attention to two key New Testament passages: Romans 7 and Matthew 5.

Romans 7: The Law, Marriage, and Freedom in Christ

Paul begins Romans 7 by appealing to those who “know the law”—a reference to Jewish believers and proselytes. Here is the passage:

1 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.

Paul is not speaking of divorce here in a literal, legalistic sense. Instead, he uses the framework of marriage and law to demonstrate a spiritual reality:

  • The law binds a person to sin (as a wife to a husband).

  • The death of Christ breaks that bond.

  • The believer is now free to be joined to Christ.

We can outline it this way:

Earthly Analogy Spiritual Analogy
Woman is married to man Man is married to sin
Law holds the woman Law holds the man
Man dies Sin dies
Woman is free Man is free

The law is not abolished, but we are dead to it through Christ’s body. We are now “married to another”—Jesus Christ. Through His death and resurrection, sin is defeated. This is the foundation of Christian liberty and the Gospel.

Matthew 5: Teaching the Law to Reveal Sin

At first glance, Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 5 seems like a random list of laws:

"You have heard... But I say to you..."

Jesus states:

"Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfill." (v.17)

This statement, followed by teachings on anger, lust, oaths, retaliation, and divorce, seems disconnected until we realize what Jesus is doing. He is not simply moralizing—He is revealing the depth of sin in the human heart. He takes external laws and internalizes them:

  • Not just murder, but anger is judged.

  • Not just adultery, but lust is condemned.

  • Not just divorce, but unjustified separation is called sin.

Jesus is revealing that no one is righteous—not even the Pharisees.

Like Paul in Romans, Jesus is showing His listeners that the Law cannot save—it can only reveal our need for salvation. The commands in Matthew 5 set an unachievable standard without divine help. This is not a manual for behavior modification but a mirror to reveal our need for a Savior.

Divorce as a Gospel Analogy

So why does Jesus mention divorce at all in Matthew 5?

Because it fits the pattern. He is not teaching on divorce in a vacuum. He is using it, as Paul does in Romans 7, to illustrate the binding nature of the law and the radical heart-change required in the Kingdom of God. It is one more example showing that righteousness cannot be attained through outward conformity alone.

In Romans, Paul shows that Christ’s death frees us from the “marriage” to sin. In Matthew, Jesus is foreshadowing this truth by exposing the heart’s brokenness.

Law and Grace in Harmony

The consistent message between Jesus and Paul is this:

  • The Law shows us our sin.

  • Sin brings death.

  • Christ fulfills the Law.

  • His death breaks our bondage.

  • In Him, we find life and freedom.

As Paul says in Romans 8:

"For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son... condemned sin in the flesh."

Jesus condemned sin, not the sinner. In doing so, He provided the way to live by the Spirit rather than the letter of the law.

Conclusion: From Law to Life

To reduce Jesus’ teaching on divorce or Paul’s analogy in Romans to legal arguments is to miss the bigger picture. The deeper truth is that both were using the concept of divorce—not to create rules, but to reveal freedom through Christ.

The law reveals sinners need a Savior. The Savior reveals how to follow Him.

“Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone. But if it dies, it bears much fruit.” (John 12:24)

Jesus is that seed. His death broke our bondage to sin and the law. His resurrection brings new life. Through Him, we are no longer “married” to sin—but to grace, to truth, and to eternal life.

If this blog helped you see the gospel message in a new light, feel free to share or leave a comment. For more reflections on Scripture and grace, stay tuned for future posts.



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